2: just back online after a weekend in Taos. Nice. Lots of art, some of it good. I got myself a fabulous ring. 3: feeling quite sick this morning. Don’t know if it’s yesterday’s BBQ or last night’s email bomb from my mother more Ross: http://www.beginningwithi.com/Woodstock/rd070831.html 4: @lskrocki Duncan Retreat, B&B belonging to friend of Read More…
12 or earlier: http://www.fotolog.com/rossella/19953061 – Ross is back on fotolog, first pix from India Ross LIKES SCHOOL. For the first time EVER. Ross just called from school. Amazing. In my day we barely had phones and they didn’t work! why does everything I eat in America give me gas? back to another afternoon of videotaping Read More…
12 or earlier: http://www.fotolog.com/rossella/19953061 – Ross is back on fotolog, first pix from India
back to another afternoon of videotaping Leadville training. with maybe a lab visit – whee! (I’m such a geek)
I feel good, I knew that I would yeah. No, really, I do! Productive day, about to go for happy hour with a bunch of geneticists
cultural differences: Ross’ new English teacher thanked her for commenting in class. Her Italian lit teacher told her she thinks too much
Define, refine, redefine. My life has changed, is changing – radically. And that’s good. It was time.
@pippawilson – l’evaporated milk si trova all’Esselunga, credo si chiami latte evaporato (o condensato?). Cmq il lattino e’ uguale
only been away 2 weeks and my Italian is going to hell. It’s losing brain space to Solaris storage software.
bracing myself for two more hours of filming highly technical training. I think I must be learning something…
contemplating driving to New Mexico next weekend. 6 hours. Far more than I’ve driven in years. It’s an adventure, right?
had a very good massage, immediately followed by a piece of potentially very good news. Now dinner with an old friend. A good day all in all
per chi volesse seguire le avventure di Rossella in India, e’ tornata alla grande su fotolog: http://www.fotolog.com/rossella
coppia italo-americana cerca nome per un figlio in arrivo. Chi li puo’ aiutare? http://tinyurl.com/2c43po
13: hiked 7 miles in Rocky Mountain National park yesterday – much harder than we anticipated, joints sore today. The pines are dying. Very sad.
14: winding down after a long, busy day. Saturday passed by a famous site: http://www.fotolog.com/deirdrestraughan/25304286
on today’s menu: video production planning, wiki work, meetings, metrics, and a movie… beh, almeno qui c’e’ l’aria condizionata!
15: good morning from not-sunny Broomfield, Colorado! I do not have enough caffeine in my system yet…
buon ferragosto agli Italiani, happy independence day to the Indians! (Ross wears a sari for the first time today, singing Jana Gana Mana)
@kitykity Ah, but have you been one of those women? I’m not a screamer in any other situation, but when you haven’t seen a friend in 20 yrs
just had a filling replaced. Good thing I wasn’t in Italy – would not have found a dentist working this week! Cheaper here, too.
@blublog – non avevi mai sentito “Stuck in the Middle with You”?? Mi sento vecchia. Mi sa’ che l’originale era di Stealer’s Wheel.
17: trying to figure out my very complicated life. I don’t TRY to be the exception to every rule. I just am!
this is one happy kid: http://www.fotolog.com/rossella/20181328 We’re finally doing something right!
@abeggi – she’s at my school and wearing my jewelry! And if she’s learned a thing or two about communication from Mom – not surprising!
I give up. Taking antibiotics for what is probably a sinus infection tho it behaves very differently in this dry climate.
just took a whole bunch of great photos at a flea market in New Mexico, but don’t have my cable with me to download them!
@caseymckinnon – I suspect that you got quite a lot of the netosphere panting at the thought of a dream with you and Zadi in it!
just back from a fantastic weekend in New Mexico – old friends in new places, what could be better? Photos and video soon!
@cristianconti Zecchino d’Oro omiodio – falle ascoltare della musica vera, altrimenti impazzerai con Cretina LaScema e bella compagnia…
turista americana chiede consigli sulla sicurezza a Firenze e Milano; potreste rispondere? http://tinyurl.com/2aa7n2
“everyone” says Mac is better than Windows for video editing. But has anyone actually USED both to really compare?
okay: tonight I miss Ross so badly I can hardly breathe. Why tonight in particular? Dunno. Maybe being at the home of friends who have kids
21: whuff, long day! I’ll be going to California (1st time since 2001) ~09/06-16. This will be interesting. @schlomo – time for that drink!
Roasted Green Chiles at the Las Vegas Flea Market: http://www.beginningwithi.com/travel/070818a.html
for those who’d like to follow Ross’ adventures in English, I’ve been translating (with her permission): http://www.beginningwithi.com/W …
plans set: in Calif Sept 5-17, of which 8th-13th in/around San Jose, rest in SFO. Who will be around?
did I mention that my life is going to be totally different when I get back to Italy (in Sept) from what it was before I left (in July)?
a pleasant day mostly alone (except for phone calls). Downloaded hours of video. Ate sushi. Saw HP5 again (no subtitles, yay!), now to bed
a fast, winding drive into the mountains today left me limp. I wish someone else had been driving so I could have enjoyed the view!
@michaelverdi Dylan in high school! Go Dylan! I bet she won’t take crap from anyone (and good for her).
time to have a shower, coffee, breakfast – and go to work. Which is very, very close now that I’m in a hotel.
Ross called y’day to say she landed the role of “the maid mad to marry” in “The Taming of the Shrew”. Now can’t get that song out of my head
hmm. gonna be a lot cooler in SFO. Good thing I brought some warmies. Now what about Taos and San Jose?
@davidhowell I have seen American teenagers in AIRPORTS in what looked to me like flannel pajamas – at least the bottoms were. Seems rude.
avrei bisogno di qualcuno che mi possa mettere su in casa una rete vera – shared printer, storage, backups, ecc. Windows, purtroppo…
30: wish I was in Mussoorie (India). For many reasons. But I’ll have to make do with Taos. Living the life that only I could live…
okay, ‘m definitely doing too much… SO glad I’m taking a long weekend break. I foresee many margaritas in my near future. Better be!
What with all the preparations, end of the school year, and various family medical traumas, I have barely had time to dwell on the fact that our daughter is about to leave home. It’s just as well that I haven’t had that time. Ross will be away for a full ten months (yes, I will Read More…
It’s just as well that I haven’t had that time.
Ross will be away for a full ten months (yes, I will visit). During winter vacation, the SAGE (exchange) program kids go on a one-month tour all over India, and, although it’s optional, Ross won’t want to pass that up. She will finish up at Woodstock next May 30th, presumably with enough course credits to graduate with a Woodstock diploma (equivalent to a US high school diploma).
She could theoretically then return to Italy for her fifth and final year of liceo, do the maturitÃ (Italian school leaving exam), and go on to university in Italy – which has the advantage that it’s essentially free (we have paid for it already through our taxes). However, for reasons that I don’t feel like going into right now (because I’m so angry with the Italian school system), that is looking unlikely at present. So there’s a good chance that Ross will go straight on to college in the US, with only a vacation stopover back home in Lecco. Enrico and I are staring into the abyss of an empty nest.
Not that we thought she’d live with her parents til age 30, as so many Italian young people do – the girls do tend to get away earlier, and Ross just isn’t the type to stay home. There’s a big, wide world out there, and she can’t wait to go see it all.
Ross is also turning 18, just a few days after her school year at Woodstock begins. The 18th birthday is a big deal in Italy: it’s the voting age, the age of legal adulthood, and the age at which you can drive a car (drinking age? that was a while ago). Many kids, at least in Ross’ circles, celebrate 18 in a big way. Ross didn’t quite get her act together for a big party, but had a dinner out with a gang of friends. And we’re going to see a show in London, and will be having a few other treats along the way. Anything to keep me distracted from that moment when I have to wave goodbye to her at the airport.
Comments and shoulders to cry on welcome!
I’m a cartoon! I’m not quite sure where I got the idea (although, admittedly, a number of bloggers are doing it). Since the unifying theme of this site is me, it makes sense to use myself as a logo. But I rarely like photos of myself, and a cartoon portrait seemed like more fun anyway. Read More…
I’m a cartoon! I’m not quite sure where I got the idea (although, admittedly, a number of bloggers are doing it). Since the unifying theme of this site is me, it makes sense to use myself as a logo. But I rarely like photos of myself, and a cartoon portrait seemed like more fun anyway.
The artist is Mike Segawa, whose work I noticed on a (Not Safe For Work) Buffy fan site years ago – he had done some wonderful pictures of Buffy characters and scenes, and I wanted to track him down to find out if he had any more. Eventually I found an email address and dropped him a note, but got no reply – for two years. I guess he had kept my email, because when he finally did get a site up (mikesegawa.com) he wrote to let me know about it.
By then I had come up with the idea of a cartoon portrait for my site, so I wrote back immediately – but again got no reply. I kept Mike’s site in my bookmarks and visited now and then to see what was new (lots of yummy artwork besides – yay! – more Buffy). A few months ago he mentioned on his home page that the email address had been wrong, and offered a new one. I wrote to that, and finally we were in touch.
It took a little longer to get the project done, but here we are at last. It’s more portrait than cartoon – the family double chin is clearly in evidence – but, hey, that’s the real me. And the lean-back air of ironic amusement, with the skeptical Gromit eyebrows, seems appropriate for my site. What do you think?
^ My father’s eulogy for his sister Rosie, read by me. The Giving Tree ~15 minutes, 23 mb Casey (Rosie’s daughter), Sarah (granddaughter) and Dot (cousin) talk about Rosie. above: What I said at Rosie’s funeral. Processional Recessional – Per New Orleans tradition: “When the Saints Go Marching In.” New Orleans Jazz Band of Austin Read More…
^ My father’s eulogy for his sister Rosie, read by me.
~15 minutes, 23 mb
Casey (Rosie’s daughter), Sarah (granddaughter) and Dot (cousin) talk about Rosie.
above: What I said at Rosie’s funeral.
Recessional – Per New Orleans tradition: “When the Saints Go Marching In.”
New Orleans Jazz Band of Austin
cornet – Larmon Maddox
clarinet – Jim Ivy
helicon (tuba) – Mark Rubin
banjo – Tom Griffith
To hire this band (and I highly recommend them!), email Tom Griffith or call him at 512-458-9544
barbecue and music at the Old Coupland Inn
Apr 12, 2006
Funerals are traditionally held three days after the death. As my cousin Casey pointed out, there’s old wisdom in this: at three days, you’re still in shock. By six days (when Rosie’s funeral was held, to give people a chance to arrive from various parts of the world), real pain is beginning to set in. But we all got through the funeral fairly cheerfully, in part because we wanted to make a show worthy of Rosie (and we did).
Ross by Ross – Austin, April 2006
Rosie was in so much physical misery for so many years that I could not, for her own sake, wish her back to life. But it sure hurts that she’s gone. I thought this pain would at least diminish after the funeral. So far, it hasn’t. Thanks to everyone who has offered condolences and advice – it does help.
I’m trying to keep busy, when not simply too tired – crossing the Atlantic twice in six days was inherently tiring, aside from the emotional overload associated with the trip.
We got home Tuesday morning and I worked normal office hours Wednesday through Friday. Saturday I worked in the garden, clearing weeds and planting seeds. The broccoli that Domenico planted for us last fall are sprouting now and very yummy, and some of last year’s lettuce that went to seed has already come back. Beautiful pink tulips are blooming, from a bag of mixed bulbs I bought in Amsterdam last September. The daffodils have come back in force.
I concentrate on renewal and growth – that seems to help. Saturday we bought an apricot tree to plant in one corner of our vegetable garden. I don’t expect it to bear for a few years; perhaps by the time it does I won’t miss Rosie so painfully. In the meantime, I have whole hours at a time when I feel normal, even happy. Then the rollercoaster plunges again and I feel like crying.
I still miss Rosie, and probably always will. But I do feel satisfied with the funeral – as Mark Rubin pointed out, the send-off we gave Rosie clearly demonstrated, even to complete strangers, that she was a hell of a lady.
I haven’t been to many funerals, but what little experience I have of them is that they’re often more about what other people think is “right” rather than a celebration of the dead person. But I know there are counter-examples out there. Have you been to a funeral that you felt was particularly appropriate to the memory of the person? Let me know.