Talk About My Life

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I GET PHOTOGRAPHED

and no longer

PHOTOGRAPH MYSELF

Rossella in a sari

Walking, not the easiest thing to do with this on…

I like the picture because NOTA BENE: no purse, no cellphone, makeup, various objects… ONLY a camera and my magnificent self! (Wrapped in a cloth, very simply.)

Here they ask me questions like: “What is the difference between religiosity and spirituality?”

Here they ask me to tell MY opinion, talk about MY life, about MY tastes, and MY beliefs and habits.

bhangra

The one on the right is a teacher, who is dancing with a student.

Indian Independence Day

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August 15th, Indian Independence Day = NO LESSONS

“You’d better get up if you want to wear a sari, it’ll take a while!” That’s how Roli, my roommate, woke me up this morning. And here I am with a black tube that covers my chest, a pair of trousers with an elastic waist, and a swath of red silk at least 5 meters long in hand. I wait in line to be dressed by one of the few Indian girls capable of wrapping this cloth called a “sari” and transform it into a very elegant dress.

I turn around a few times and I have a skirt, then she folds a couple of pleats into the elastic of the trousers. The remaining cloth she throws over my right shoulder, a few safety pins, et voila! Nous avons le sari.

I am now elegant – and absolutely can’t walk, except in tiny little steps like a Japanese in a kimono (perhaps the concept is similar?). Creeping like an ant, I arrive at school. Ceremony, speeches on peace and independence, Indian music and the national anthem which I do NOT know except for the last bit which just goes: “Jaye Jaye Jaye Jaye he!”

The room begins to empty while everyone heads toward the buffet, in the meantime, the music starts.

Overtaken by the enthusiasm and the Bollywood atmosphere, I jump around and shake my shoulders, “screwing in the lightbulb while patting the dog”!!

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MomComm: This year’s change in the school calendar meant, among other things, that there wasn’t much time to properly learn Jana Gana Mana, the Indian anthem. Tsk, tsk. On the other hand, I was never brave enough to wear a sari until our Baccalaureate and graduation ceremonies.

Nothing is Familiar

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Sunday morning.

Fortunately, here we have weekends free. Both Saturday and Sunday! Two days in which we don’t have to worry about scaling Everest to reach a Hindi lesson.

Yesterday I turned 18. I didn’t even realize it! My friends ordered pizza (school food is acceptable, but it’s always institutional cooking and you get sick of it very soon).

I got birthday wishes, cards, and sweet thoughts, a cake! I didn’t expect more. Serenely I celebrated this new achievement, even though here being 18 doesn’t mean anything, the rules are the same for all.

Yesterday was also the evening of the “Homecoming dance”. Nothing particularly elegant, as I might have expected after all the films I’ve seen set in American high schools. Just music, and girls going crazy in the hopes that some one of the VERY FEW boys comes out of his state of imbecility and notices the wagging butts.

“The boys here have a different culture, if they don’t know you, they’ll never come dance with you,” explains a girl. “Oh, great,” I think. Between Indians, Chinese, Japanese, Americans, and a Russian, not even one will try??

Like yesterday morning, today I slipped out of bed more out of boredom than anything else. The monsoon makes me sleepy, and the more I sprawl on sofas and chairs, trying to finish my assigned reading, the more I fall asleep! As in hotels, meals have set times, and we always end up waiting anxiously for noon, the lunch hour, because we slept through breakfast.

I’m already starting to find things that comfort me, that make me feel at home! Like the coffee in the morning, which is very sweet and, even though at home I drink it black and bitter, I gulp down two big cups with great satisfaction.

We go down for lunch and we have to run to get away from a horde of monkeys. The hyper-religious pseudo-anorexic* who claims to love animals had had a “who laughs first” contest earlier with one of these monkeys, through the glass window in our dorm. Everyone told her over and over again that they’re aggressive and often have rabies, so you should NOT look them in the eyes! But she never imagined that the monkey would remember her! “Maybe now you’ll think again when you say they’re not our ancestors?” was my reaction.

The yellow and greenish narrow hallways of the girls’ dorms remind me of an insane asylum. Different cultures, nationalities, origins, and life histories are brought together in a single reality, feminine adolescence compressed into a building. Pre-menstrual sress, shrill yells, laughs, and cries, sentimental dissatisfactions and satisfactions, trying on and lending clothes, sharing mirrors, compliments and advice, secrets and gossip… a year-long pyjama party!

August 15th is India’s independence day. The school advises us to wear Indian clothes or else our own native costumes. My mother had not reacted well to the idea of a Valentino as my national dress, so now I’m screwed and without an appropriate outfit, while my roommate wraps herself in fantastic silk and says “I look like an aunty!” – she puts her hands together and bows her head – “NAMASTEEE!!!” in a tone obviously meant to make fun of some horrible Indian aunty.**

It’s raining, everything is green and gray. Only my orange raincoat stands out. The gray lasts so long that you don’t even remember what the sun looks like! It seems as if the only reality is this one: put on damp clothing in the morning, dry yourself with a towel that is never really dry. See your hair take on strange forms, curves it never had before.

Nothing is familiar, nothing reminds you of home. And it’s exactly in places like this that the most abstruse things come to mind, and you spend the rest of the day asking yourself why your thoughts took you there…

MomComm: We parents, too, are deeply grateful to NOT have to deal with school on Saturdays anymore!

*NB: Ross assures me that she and this girl actually like each other a lot, although they argue all the time!

** Calling someone aunty in India does not necessarily mean they’re related to you.

VirginMobileUSA – Missing Error Message

Every time I come to the US I have a cellphone problem. International roaming from Vodafone Italy works inconsistently, if at all, with US carriers. The first time I landed in Denver I spent a very frustrating half-hour trying to contact the friend who was coming to pick me up: the T-Mobile network that my phone logged onto in the airport would not let me call, and gave an irrelevant error message which did not explain why (“The caller is not enabled for this service” – since when does a phone owner not allow herself to receive a call?). I sent SMS, but adult Americans are not yet accustomed to using text messages on their phones, so my friend didn’t know how to read it.

Dan bought a phone for me and future visitors to use when here, but before I arrived this time he had realized that it was absurd to pay Cingular a dollar a day to keep the service active when no one was using it. So I had to figure out the most cost-effective solution for myself this time around.

I picked up phone plan brochures from a store and just as the young man at Circuit City had told me, my best bet was VirginMobile: they offer monthly or by-the-minute plans with no contract. I bought the cheapest phone they offer ($20), though I wouldn’t recommend this model (a Kyocera) – it’s the slowest phone I’ve ever encountered, taking a second to respond to a button press to invoke a menu. And the battery life is crap. But it took me a few days to perceive these shortcomings. Next time I won’t buy the cheapest.

When I got it home, I had to deal with signing up with VirginMobile. First I tried their activation website. I followed the clear and easy multi-step process to select the plan I wanted ($100 for a month, with 1000 anytime minutes and free nights and weekends).

After 5 or 6 steps answering questions and making selections, I was supposed to enter the phone’s serial number. Following the instructions on the site, I located it on a sticker inside the phone’s battery bay. It is printed in very small type, and there was one digit which could have been a 5 or a 6. I took a guess, entered a serial number in the text box on the site, and clicked the Submit button.

I suddenly found myself back at the beginning of the activation process, with no explanation as to why I was there. I knew the activation hadn’t been completed, because I had not yet been asked for any personal information, credit card, etc. But I had no clue what had gone wrong. Was the site simply broken? I tried twice more, with the same result.

There was nothing for it but to call the toll-free number to activate by phone. I had to do this from my friend’s cellphone, which cost her minutes. (I know most people don’t care about this, having far more minutes than they actually use every month – and Tin Tin certainly didn’t – but I’m always acutely aware of it.)

The automated phone system is done with a “hip” young voice, obviously designed to appeal to the majority of Virgin’s customers, which instantly grated on my bitchy-middle-aged-lady nerves. Having to g through a phone tree to make the same choices I had already made three times on the website was also irritating, though understandable. But I was not pleased when the cheerful recorded voice advised me, during a wait period, that I could do all this myself on the website! Believe me, honey, if I coulda, I woulda.

I finally got a live operator (who had a distractingly bad head cold but was nice and competent) and went through a bunch more choices. When we got to the serial number, she told me that number was already in use. This explained the problem I had on the website – it choked when I entered the wrong number. But instead of telling me that was the problem, it bounced me out of the process without any explanation. Not helpful.
Then it came time to pay. Uh oh. Here we go again. My credit card, though issued in the US, has a foreign billing address. Many or most American companies can’t deal with that. The operator I was speaking to spoke to a supervisor, but there was nothing to be done. I had to borrow Tin Tin’s credit card to pay for the phone. Which is ridiculous and humiliating for a grown woman who is otherwise completely capable of managing her own financial life!

 

Deirdré Straughan on Italy, India, the Internet, the world, and now Australia