The Patriarchy of Tech Hierarchy

Originally a series of Tweets published June 14, 2019, probably during a tech conference

Dear women engineers: I am truly, deeply tired of hearing you complain about how terrible it is to be mistaken for anything other than an engineer. And God forbid anyone should imagine for a second that you work in (shudder)… marketing. 1/

You know what that is? It’s you playing straight into the PATRIARCHY. You have clawed your way to the top of the male-dominated tech hierarchy, and now you don’t want to be associated with “the girly stuff.” 2/

You join the men that you complain about in denigrating what you and they consider “women’s work.” You just want to be treated like one of the boys. Well, you’re certainly behaving like them. 3/

You act as if certain roles (marketing, HR, admin) are women’s work, and are less important than engineering. What is that if not patriarchy? And I’ve got news for you: it takes all of us together to run a successful company. 4/

Marketing can be a lot more “technical” and difficult than you imagine. I have been working in tech since some of you were in diapers. True, I can’t do your job – I’ve never been a coder. BUT YOU CAN’T DO MINE, EITHER. 5/

So, cut that shit out. You’re an engineer? Fine. I’m a marketer. I’m still your sister in this difficult, male-heavy world of tech, and I absolutely demand your respect – as well as men’s. As I in turn give you respect and support. Because that’s what sisters do for each other, and it’s what we need to do to help each other survive and thrive in this. 7/

If you can’t do that for me and every other woman, no matter her role, GTFO – you’re not a feminist; you’re just an asshole. /end

Pioneering Customer Service Online

(NB: this piece was written in 2017)

In the early days of CD recording, Incat Systems –- a small company in Milan, Italy –- captured most of the OEM CD-R software market, but also wanted to sell directly to consumers. This required us to provide technical support, with a small staff, from our Milan office. 

To help meet that need, I became a pioneer in using online communications tools to interact with customers. There is no single innovation I can claim to have developed; I experimented with evolving and overlapping uses of new platforms and means of communication as they became available.

I began by answering technical questions via CompuServe. Then, at the suggestion of customers, I moved on to the Usenet. Instead of waiting for questions and problems to come to us via “normal” support channels, I went to where the customers were, proactively seeking to help them. This was so popular that I hired two other people to assist, and customers cited our presence on the Usenet as a reason for buying our software. OEM partners (and competitors) followed our example.

As the Usenet began to be overrun by trolls, at the request of customers I launched a moderated email discussion list. When that got too busy for some readers, I began publishing weekly newsletters with original articles, FAQs from list discussions, upgrade announcements, etc. This grew to two newsletters (Windows and Mac) with a total subscription of 180,000. The newsletters, too, got comments like: “I just bought Easy CD Creator 5 Platinum this morning. I was strongly influenced by receiving your tips on a regular basis telling me about all the cool things I could do with the product.”

The personal touch was still important: every newsletter went out from my email address, and I replied to every response (as many as 400 in a day). This helped me to know immediately what customers cared about, or were struggling with. I fed back this information to the company to help improve all aspects of the customer experience: product features, user interface, documentation, bugs, support channels, customer service.

Honesty was also crucial. I was known for being up-front about what could and couldn’t (or would and wouldn’t) be done with our software. Even the angriest customer could be turned around by listening politely and kindly, and giving answers that showed caring and respect, even when I couldn’t provide an immediate solution. I earned a great deal of trust.

In all formats, I maintained a personal, friendly tone, neither talking down to people nor overwhelming them with jargon. This style contributed to customers feeling a personal connection to the company. 

Meanwhile, the web was becoming an important platform. After Incat was acquired by Adaptec, I designed, managed, and produced the CD-R section of Adaptec’s website, which grew to account for 70% of overall site traffic. Much of our technical content was driven by what customers showed us they needed; it was immediately useful to them, and therefore popular. Most customers preferred self-service help on the web to making a phone call, which saved on support costs. (This was just before support forum and knowledgebase software began to be commercially available.)

When Adaptec spun off Roxio, I had the opportunity to design a new website from the ground up. I already thought of our users (and they thought of themselves) as a community, but the Roxio site may have been the first to refer to customers as such, with a “community” section. Users valued the opportunity to contribute their own technical insights and stories about how they were using our software – sometimes in ways our development and marketing teams had never imagined. 

I was blazing a trail, with no industry examples to follow. What I was doing wasn’t always understood or appreciated by my colleagues: “Oh, those are just Deirdré’s Internet people,” one once said. However, key colleagues, including the VPs of marketing and of software development, understood and valued the feedback I was able to provide.

I had decided early on that the best people to tell us what to do for customers would be customers themselves. The Internet was a powerful new way to hear from them – for any company willing to listen. In pursuit of better ways of listening and responding, I kept trying out and adapting new online tools as they became available.

Companies came to assume (for a while) that they must be available to customers via websites, forums, social media, and other online communications platforms. Perhaps a few people involved in that work were influenced by what I did back then. What about Easy CD? Through subsequent acquisitions and huge changes to the technology landscape, the software is, somewhat surprisingly, still around.

As for me: I continued to care first and foremost about the customer experience, and continued to  learn (and adapt, when necessary) whatever new tools and techniques were best suited to communicate with customers and make them happy.

Still a Member of the Cancer Tribe

August, 2024: I’m coming up on the tenth anniversary of when I was diagnosed with breast cancer, and nine years since active treatment (surgery, chemo, radiation) ended. Since then I’ve been taking tamoxifen to suppress estrogen in my body because mine was a hormone-sensitive cancer. 

In the early months and years, I feared that I would spend the rest of my life constantly aware that I was under the shadow of death in the form of recurrence. But that awareness faded sooner than I’d expected. Perhaps humans aren’t equipped to be constantly considering our own mortality. 

Most of the time I didn’t think about cancer anymore. When it came up, I had a rote patter that I would go through: “I had breast cancer x years ago, it’s been x years since active treatment ended, and at the five-year mark it was considered cured.” As my routine checkups dwindled from quarterly to annually, I had fewer reminders. 

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Color and Light

I began wearing glasses for nearsightedness at age eight or nine – I was the classic kid who couldn’t read the blackboard, back when children were not as routinely tested for vision problems. My vision got continually worse over my lifetime; I was accustomed to needing new glasses every year. At least my near vision was okay – until I hit middle age when, like everyone else, I also began to lose the ability to focus close up (presbyopia). Around 2008 I began wearing progressive trifocals, which gave me clear vision at a range of distances. It was never perfect correction – I had trouble reading street signs while driving, for example.

I had long been under observation and treatment for high pressure in my eyes, to make sure that this didn’t develop into glaucoma. For many years this was controllable with eyedrops, but after a while any given formula tends to stop working. My ophthalmologist tried me on several different kinds over ten years, but my choices are limited by a severe allergy to one whole family of these drugs – I spent about a month wanting to rip my eyeballs out to stop the pain and itching before we figured that out.

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Manterrupting in the Hallway Track

Women, stop me if you’ve heard this one before:

You’re at a tech conference,  one that you are attending as a tech professional with interest and expertise in the subject matter. You’re standing talking to a man – perhaps he’s a speaker whose talk you just heard, or someone with influence in your field, or you have any other professional reason to speak with him. There you are, deep in conversation, when another man suddenly swoops in and starts talking to the man you are talking to, about a completely different topic, as if he didn’t even notice you were there.

Usually, he is allowed to completely disrupt the conversation you were having. Your original interlocutor may not even notice that you were interrupted. If he does, he may throw a sheepish look at you, while going on listening and responding to the interrupter. You wait patiently until the interrupter finishes and goes away (possibly without ever acknowledging your presence), then finally resume your own conversation. No one thinks anything unusual has happened.

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